Another New Person!

Hi! My name is Steph and I am the wife of a Physician Scientist student. My husband, Joshua, is wrapping up his second year at The University of South Dakota and getting ready for his Step One in June. We met at the U four years ago. Like many he had the doctor dreams since he was about five. We were married before his first year and moved back to where our families lived, about 50 miles away from the school. So he has to commute about two hours a day.

I regret a lot that we didn't stay closer to the school. I know he was willing to move for me, but I feel we missed out on the bonding with other medical families. I try to understand what he is going through to the best of my abilities, but I grew up in a business family, knowing nothing about the medical professions. He also tries to keep school at school so it doesn't interrupt our time together. I missed out on getting to know other wives going through what I am going through. Someone to talk to, relate to and know I am not alone with what I am feeling.

In about four years, after his lab time and clinicals we will be needing to move for his residency. I plan, at that time, to throw myself into the role I should have been playing from the beginning. I feel like I support him from a distance, but I want to be there through the whole thing and be involved. I also want to meet others who we can both relate to and make some lasting bonds. Since he has to commute, he also doesn't get that bonding time with his fellow students.

So I guess the main reason I wanted to get involved in these blogs is to meet others and be able to vent about what we, as the supporters, are going through. And to hear about everyone elses tales. Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? What works to keep the relationship going when schedules and hours are completely different? What methods do others use to keep themselves busy, but continuously available for support? Any suggestions to relate more to my husband about his passion without having to have the same medical background and knowledge?

Thanks for reading and I hope to get to know some of you a little better!