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Lives of Doctor Wives: Premed Perspective: The Baby Debate

Monday, March 30, 2015

Premed Perspective: The Baby Debate

We’re not in med school yet and we have a 11 month old.

This means that Jake and I are awesome at compromising.
Or I won.
Squeaky wheel and all that.

Back story
Jake and I got married knowing that we wanted to be parents.
For me, it was a no brainer. I wanted children as soon as we were hitched. The only thing holding me back was the impending deployment.
I was all about being a young mother, so I could pop out more kids. I’m in no way career driven, so my dream job is staying home with my children.

Well, let me take that back.
The things that I am interested in doing as a career are impractical and not really applicable to family and adult life.

Staying home with my children seems to be awesome enough to dream about now too.
It''s more important now, and possibly a gateway to volunteering in the direction of my childhood dreams.

Jake had a little longer timeline in mind for us. He wanted to be settled and established.
This meant getting into Med school and possibly even into Residency before having children.

Did I mention that we got married in 2009?
Can you feel my deadpan stare?

After Jake got home from deployment in 2012, I was fairly hysterical for a shorter timeline for babies.
It did not help that my sister and all of my sisters-in-law were pregnant or had babies within a 9 month span.
Except me.

There were a few times when I flat out cried at him.
I’m not proud of that fact, because I tend to think of myself as a pretty emotionally stable person.

We did, finally, compromise.
We were blessed that Jaxon was on his way the very month we agreed to start trying for a baby.

Now we are more than over the moon in love and happy as a family of 3 starting this journey together.

Jake and I know that it will not always be easy, raising children while Jake is pursuing his dream.
There are many long years of school and hard work in Jake’s future.
Jaxon and I, along with any other future children, will be more than ready to be his completely adorable and awesome cheerleaders.

How many of you are entering this adventure with child?
How many are planning on having kids during the process of med school or residency?
Was it a big discussion with your spouse?

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Blogger Teage said...

Let me first say, I do not know how you do it! My husband and I got married this past July and I definitely have the itch to have a baby. But I am finishing up my masters degree and my husband (an army vet) just took his MCAT and we are about to start the application process this summer. We've talked about having a baby while he's in school, but it's all up in the air right now. I hope to continue to follow your family's journey in the med school process too!

April 27, 2015 at 2:55 PM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

My husband is a non-traditional medical student currently finishing up his third year at 37 years old. We have 2 boys ages 7 & 5(whom I homeschool), and a baby girl due this summer. I am 36. We tend to do things not as others expect, I suppose. It's not always easy, but nothing really ever is. It is totally doable, however. Best of luck to you as you start this journey. Find some friends and live life while he's in school. There's no point in waiting until school is over to just live and be happy. Finding friends in school was not easy for me, as we really are on an island so to speak. There are not many our age or with children the ages of ours. I found great friends, though, through my church and homeschool community.

April 29, 2015 at 1:20 PM  

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