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Lives of Doctor Wives: Passing time/Counting Down

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Passing time/Counting Down

So as the spouse of a fourth year, we have our rank list finalized and certified. And being that tomorrow night is the deadline I imagine most others are done or almost there. So my question is how are you keeping busy to pass the time? Are you going crazy yet?

And to those of you who have survived the match process, did the last three weeks go by quickly or were they the longest three weeks of your life?

I've gotten over the anxiety and am mostly excited now but I find it hard not to let the whole situation CONSUME my thoughts! I cannot help but wonder where we will end up? I'm trying to keep myself distracted, but I find it so hard to stay focused, even at work!



Blogger Aly said...

Hubs did his final certified list last week. We are pretty much passing the time by talking about anything BUT Match Day - otherwise I think the last 3 weeks are going to kill me (notice I said ME, not him haha!)I would also love to hear some words of wisdom from those of you who have been through this before!!

February 23, 2010 at 3:09 PM  
Blogger MW said...

Work was kind of crazy last week, so that helped.
I try to keep busy...
church and sorority (I'm the adviser) events, lots of winter birthdays, and various outings with friends.

I've been busy at work, which is good.

I've looked at apartments and houses online for the top non-NYC cities on our list.

I've applied for jobs in our #1 city outside of NY.

I've been keeping a running countdown of the steps (ROL list, my LSAT score, Black Monday, and Match Day).

Last weekend I started to tear up on the Express bus at the possibility of leaving NYC.

Gah, I just want to know already!

February 23, 2010 at 3:24 PM  
Blogger Beth Hollenbeck said...

No words of wisdom here! Those weeks were long and even though my husband is only in his 2nd year of residency of 5, I wonder a lot where fellowship will be! I remember that I spent a lot of my time perusing websites about the cities where I thought we had a strong chance of ending up...and house hunting online. To be honest, it is such an exciting time, so enjoy all of the daydreaming, wondering, and anxiety. Because once you get moved and residency has begun, life is pretty boring :) There are a lot of fun times, but LOTS of work, work and more work for your husbands. I am excited and anxious FOR you and everyone else! Congrats on having the list done and turning all of that in!

February 23, 2010 at 3:34 PM  
Blogger Bea said...

Oh, the anticipation of it all!! I remember that feeling too well. I hate to say it, but the days dragged on for us until Match day. I was busy, but I kept staring at the countdown calendar.

If at all possible, I agree with Beth-- try to enjoy and savor this time. I know it's easier said than done, but try and have fun with the anticipation. Before you know it, you'll have moving logistics to figure out and that's not as fun. For now, enjoy the possibilities!

February 23, 2010 at 3:44 PM  
Blogger Shana said...

I didn't meet my husband til his second month of intern year, but he tells me that Match Day was one of the strangest moments of his life.

After matches were announced (he got his preferred assignment)and the cheering ended he was hit by a wave of despair. The moment he'd waited for for 7 years (M.D./Ph.D.) came and left him with nothing to do. No vision for how to cope with the next hour, day or week.

Of course, he didn't have me by his side then ;) So you amazing wives & partners our there, make sure you have something planned afterwards! And maybe invite along some of their single peers as well.

February 23, 2010 at 3:51 PM  
Blogger Kristen said...

My husband is a first year radiology resident and I remember how stressful, exciting, and nerve wracking this time was for us last year. I think that the hardest part was the time between finding out that he matched and finding out where we would be going. I agree with the above posters that you should try to enjoy this time. As soon as match day is over you will be consumed with researching your new city, looking for a place to live, arranging moving plans, oh yeah and GRADUATION!! Enjoy these next few months because once July 1st hits your hubby will become property of the hospital…it’s not really that bad, but there are moments. Good luck!

February 23, 2010 at 9:26 PM  
Blogger TheFamousStacie said...

The worst part was black Monday, when they all had to wear their pagers and anyone who didn't match got paged by the dean.

All day long the guys were all paging each other...

So once we got through black Monday, I knew he'd matched SOMEWHERE and that was a huge relief.

Next step was that all the students had to go to a luncheon on Match Day and open them in front of everyone.

I was super embarrassed when I started to cry when I saw where we were going. I thought I was meant to be in Florida and the match letter said Tennessee! DrH was super pumped, but I just didn't share his enthusiasm. I faked it like a pro!

So for a year and a half (he matched for internship year where we were at OU Tulsa) I anticipated moving to TN. That was the worst. Anticipating...

After all that anticipating DrH lasted about 8 hours at the program in TN. And where does he end up getting a residency position offer? Mayo ... in FLORIDA. Of course, sheesh.

My point, don't get too worked up about the match. As many of us have learned, if they aren't happy, they are going to change it anyway.

I know that is easy for me to say now, but really, really, really it's not the be all end all if you are not happy with were you end up.

It is the hardest week to get through. I know. I really do. I wish you the best!!!!

February 24, 2010 at 9:09 AM  

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