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Lives of Doctor Wives: Survivor Saturdays: Get Real

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Survivor Saturdays: Get Real

How much time do you spend wondering if you're meeting someone else's expectation? Doctors' wives are often judged by not only the outside world, but within their own circle of friends. Well, I'm here to tell you there isn't one woman out there who hasn't forgotten about an appointment, showed up to a nice event with spit-up on their shoulder, or failed miserably at making some fancy dish referred to by its French name. For some reason, we continue to perpetuate the myth that doctors' wives can do it all. Since I'm familiar with that pressure, too, I'm not going to tell you to ignore all of it. Instead, I'm going to share some of my secrets. I thought it would be nice if some of you chime in with some of your secrets, too. Let’s get real, ladies!

If you want to squeeze into a dress, but don't like your bumps and rolls to show... try Spanx. This undergarment is amazing and everyone wears them.

If you don't have much up top and don't want to undergo surgery, "cupcakes" do the trick. Slip them into your bra and you look sexy!

Keep a small pad of paper with you wherever you go, so you can jot things down as a reminder. I keep one in the car and one in my purse. I record people's names I just met, appointments I need to add to a calendar, grocery lists, and all kinds of things. If you have a place to write those kind of things down, you won't always be uptight about forgetting something.

Designate one cupboard, closet, or trunk for scooping up clutter when the doorbell rings unexpectedly. This is a life saver as long as you don't open the doors while the company is there. If your children are old enough, teach them to help you scoop up, too. They'll enjoy having a secret with you and you'll appreciate the extra hands.

Don't have time to whip together fancy foods for drop-in company? Follow some freeze-ahead recipes and keep them for the unexpected. Rules to follow: In a freezer, fish is good for about 2-3 months, chicken is good for about 6 months, beef is good for about a year. Potatoes don't freeze well, and vacuum baggies keep out freezer smells.

I want to share a new cookbook, Make-Ahead Meals for Busy Moms by Jane Doiron, that has just become available. I've been keeping an eye on this book after finding the author on twitter. I don't have a copy yet, but by what I saw on her website, this book includes easy meals you won't be embarrassed to serve company. She tells me there is a whole section on appetizers, too. I asked Jane if she would share a few quick appetizer recipes that appear in her book. She gladly provided the following recipes below. If you're interested in checking out the cookbook, go to http://www.makeaheadmealsforbusymoms.com


Healthy and delicious!

8 plum tomatoes, diced
4 large garlic cloves, minced
½ cup chopped fresh basil leaves
¼ cup extra virgin olive oil
½ teaspoon salt
½ teaspoon pepper
2 (4.75 oz.) bags Panetini Oven Baked Italian Toast (Garlic Parmesan)

~Prepare Up to One Day Ahead~

In a large mixing bowl, combine the tomatoes, garlic, basil, oil, salt, and pepper. Cover and refrigerate until ready to serve. Stir and drain before serving with baked Italian toasts. Serves 8.

Pear Bread

This is one of my favorites! It’s spicy, moist, and keeps well for days.

3 cans (15 oz. each) lite pear halves in extra light syrup, drained
½ cup canola oil
3 eggs
3¼ cups flour
1 cup sugar
3 teaspoons cinnamon
½ teaspoon ground cloves
½ teaspoon nutmeg
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon baking powder
½ teaspoon salt
1 cup chopped walnuts

Preheat the oven to 350°F. Spray two 8 x 4 x 3-inch loaf pans with nonstick spray; set aside. In a large mixing bowl, mash the pears with a potato masher. Stir in the oil and eggs. In a medium bowl, combine the rest of the ingredients. Slowly add the dry ingredients to the pear mixture on low speed until thoroughly combined. Pour the batter equally into the loaf pans. Bake for 70 - 75 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in the middle comes out clean. Cool on a wire rack.

~Freezing Directions~

When completely cooled, wrap the bread in plastic wrap and place in a labeled freezer bag.
Freeze up to 2 months.

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Blogger Alexandra said...

Great tips!
I use a new online system for family planning called COZI. It is great! It has a calendar that you can color code events for different family members and you can decide who the reminder is sent to....so when Tom is scheduled to present a topic at the hospital on Tuesday, it sends a reminder to him Friday so he can work on it at work in between patients. I can also have it send a last minute second reminder to help him remember to put the finishing touches on the powerpoint and make sure it is in his inbox ready to upload at work. Now I know this function is avaiable on most email accounts but this way I don't have t go to everyone's personal accounts to add it to their calendar and because obviously my kids don't have email accounts I can have the reminder sent to whichever parent will be taking them to the appointment.

I also like that it has a short cut email feature so that I can just type in a quick email and send it to Tom when I remember something last minute and don't have to open my Yahoo account to send it.

It also has a To Do list that is great for writing down grocery items I need, errands I need to run and other important things, then I just hit print and off the list comes.

It also has a family journal that you can upload pictures to and journal about what's happening with your family.

I know other places offer much of these same features but COZI is very streamlined and offers tools that I love but would have to open Yahoo, my blog, and microsoft Word in order to accomplish.

I too recommend freezing food. If you are having to cook anyway and have those ingredients out, why not double it for your family or maybe even triple it and take some to a needy family or fellow resident family to lighten their load!

I think the most helpful thing I do to not get embarrassed out in pulic is to make sure I check the mirror before I load up to go somewhere. Just because your hair, make-up and clothes looked good 5 minutes ago, doesn't mean you don't have a Lightning McQueen sticker on your tush, muffin crumbs on your face (you know from when your sweet baby shoved the last bite of it in your mouth in an effort to share), or have your hair sticking straight up!

I like to look like I have it together and that my family isn't too weird on a normal basis because even though I don't live my life caring what others think, I know that looking professional and sain reflects on how people see my husband and the work that he does.

September 5, 2009 at 8:53 AM  
Blogger AmberW said...

All such great advice...
I don't think I have a CLUE what is expected from doctors wives :) I am wondering if up here in Canada it is any different then down in the U.S. Seeing as I will be in the U.S and S is going into a surgery speciality - maybe it will be different?

Thank goodness I found this site... what would I do without you ladies?!

September 5, 2009 at 12:34 PM  
Blogger Timani said...

I personally think the whole "perfect" thing is overrated. I'm friends with several doctor's wives, (even before my husband went to med school) and know what, they are just normal people.

The largest house (mansion) in my city belongs to a very successful doc and you'd never guess by looking at them. Their street is lined with docs homes and most are just regular people in nice homes with nice cars. Don't be intimidated and fall into the "I'm not good enough" or "I have to be better", it puts too much unneeded pressure. Just be yourself and others will love you for it (and if they don't, you don't want them as friends anyway).

September 5, 2009 at 2:36 PM  
Blogger Kathi Browne said...

Well said, Timani. It just depends on the circumstances and if you're trying to impress anyone. I always felt my most pressure from the bosses' wife, or hospital CEO. When they weren't around, I was free to wear my coffee stained blue jeans and no makeup.

I am checking out COZI now and passing it onto my sis, Alexandra.

Amber... Bet you'll enjoy the warm weather in this part of the world, eh? (lol)

September 5, 2009 at 4:02 PM  
Blogger AmberW said...

Kathi I definitely love the warm weather that I had when I visited S in Boston and San Diego. I think I am going to Portland next week though... not quite the warmth I am looking for ;)
We'll save that warm vacation for another year right!?

September 6, 2009 at 12:37 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

Wow, Alexandra, thank you for sharing COZI. I think it might just change the world! HA!

I love this blog! Thanks ladies.

September 7, 2009 at 9:33 AM  

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