I would and it comes down to trust. That's why I am married. We sleep in the same bed, procreate, so why would we not share e-mail passwords? I am totally okay with him having my passwords; but if he actually used it, I would be surprised. I can't imagine being in a position where I would 'need' to use my husband's password. Sure. I've used it to find airline reservation numbers and simple things. If I had to use it for other reasons, I would question my marriage. I trust my husband and I would probably feel guilty about snooping around his private messages. I have a 15 month old, so I really can't be bothered. I couldn't imagine missing out on precious time with my daughter, that I could never get back, because I was looking over phone record passwords and searching emails. It's a fine line when you share passwords because you need to have boundaries. I think it has less to do with the "actual password" and has more to do with control. People who can't control themselves, try to control the people around them. One of the kindest things you can do for the people you love is to love yourself. And it's never really about the "password." It's a bigger issue. I guess I can say that when you have distrust, you are just protecting yourself from betrayal.
My husband and I have separate e-mails but the same password, so yes, we have each other's passwords! I don't think he ever really checks mine, but I do check his quite often. Sometimes I call or text him at work if I see an e-mail that he needs to take care of right away that he might not see until hours later, and he appreciates it! Neither of us is on facebook.
We keep a lot separate too. He's not on Facebook, I never name him in public sites, etc. Hey, I tried to find contact info for the administrators without success. I notice no one else is representing the pathology wife.
Hi Eva, I'm not a pathology wife... but I am a path girlfriend (3 years). Stumbled upon this site by accident looking for other people's experiences with being in a relationship with a dr/resident. As for passwords, ours are completely private. Not sure if marriage would change that.
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