tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4733275816481882855.post1614381408798824877..comments2023-10-28T09:31:38.684-04:00Comments on Lives of Doctor Wives: Marital counselingMelisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06853815094926344439noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4733275816481882855.post-15230493172866242002009-08-14T20:49:51.857-04:002009-08-14T20:49:51.857-04:00Adding to Alexandra's comment, church is an ex...Adding to Alexandra's comment, church is an excellent place to find companionship while your husband is away. If you're not comfortable reaching out to a church family, maybe you can find one or two other doctor's wives who can relate to you. <br /><br />During my husband's hardest years, we were a part of a group of 3 couples. Some were doctors married to doctors. When an event came up or we often went as a partial group. Our children played together and we often traded left-overs. I couldn't have gotten by without them.ClosewithKathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16015231232157212547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4733275816481882855.post-91740408741816866862009-08-14T12:50:19.435-04:002009-08-14T12:50:19.435-04:00Sometimes you just have to do your best and pray t...Sometimes you just have to do your best and pray that he will have a change of heart, if it is something HE has control over, or pray that you will have a change of heart if it's just that rough time of training. By living the life you want him to be a part of, he will hopefully see your example and realize his priorities. If he's truly busy with work that HAS to be done, then you will have to be the one that makes sure the family stays happy. It's a lot of responsibilty and very overwhelming sometimes but if you have the Lord on your side, you can make it through. We will keep you in our prayers! We've all been there!Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08581642491149357699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4733275816481882855.post-78350932669541901522009-08-14T11:36:17.556-04:002009-08-14T11:36:17.556-04:00I'm in total agreement with both Rachel and Me...I'm in total agreement with both Rachel and Melisa. Even if he doesn't go, seek out counseling for yourself - or at the very least, a good support system.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14602014607643804189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4733275816481882855.post-43153560348922345122009-08-13T22:58:38.796-04:002009-08-13T22:58:38.796-04:00Even if you can't get into marital counseling,...Even if you can't get into marital counseling, individual counseling can be very beneficial.Melisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06853815094926344439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4733275816481882855.post-9840132968328870772009-08-13T22:21:20.314-04:002009-08-13T22:21:20.314-04:00Is he still in training? If so, it is important fo...Is he still in training? If so, it is important for you to find something to keep yourself busy (work, volunteering, school, hobbies, etc.) so you don't have time to focus on how little you see him. Unfortunately, families sometimes have to take a back seat to the job, at least until the training is over. If he chose a super intensive specialty (like surgery) you find that it is not uncommon for you to go days without seeing him and when you finally do, all he will want to do is sleep. My husband is in the hardest year of his training and, fortunately, the last year of his training. I have a two year old, I'm pregnant, and I am home all day so I could easily let myself go crazy if I think about it too much. I have to remember that he has it pretty rough too. It may seem like you are giving him all the support but YOU don't have anyone to lean on. But just remember, it will get easier and the wait will be worth it. Again, if you can find something to keep yourself busy in the meantime, the time will fly by much faster.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05822340178916287738noreply@blogger.com